Balancing Negativity

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Every one has a negative side and a positive side, that we may term as our dark and bright side. It is up to us what we let reign on us. Negativity is an addiction that we really love unconsciously, we are more drawn to thoughts that are negative and prone to enjoy them without even realizing it.  Being overpowered by negativity does not mean that you are a bad person but it means that your thought process is not in the right direction for you. The thoughts that are detrimental for us and overpower us so much that they govern our actions is a negative thought pattern. 

The reason I talk about it so confidently is that at one time rather for a long time, I have enjoyed being negative and have  devastated my life to the point that it appeared that it is over. By being negative I attracted bad experiences, severe ailments, accident and was drowned in misery. I loved to pity myself. Why I became negative, did have a justified reason but now that I look back I think there are always ways to come out of our miseries and circumstances that cause them. I am not an exception who brooded over her problems and indulged in self pity rather than finding solutions. Thankfully after reading a lot of books that changed my perception towards life, I not only emerged from my state but have controlled my thought patterns.  I would like to emphasize here that we have to be very disciplined in governing our thought patterns because they shape our life. Thought patterns are governed by our mind and hence, we have to govern our mind. Mind control is the mantra here. Try to connect with your subconscious mind which is called the higher mind. The easiest way to connect with it is to meditate and listen to it by silencing all the inner noise. Our gut feeling arises from our subconscious mind. You balance your mind and you will be able to balance your life.

I read, I contemplated, I introspected and I deeply studied myself to change my behavior and thought patterns. In the beginning I found it quite difficult but my previous state had made me so desperate to get rid of misery that I was prepared to do anything for it. My spiritual inclination and practice also helped me a lot.

Now I would like to share with you the simple practices that I followed to be positive and happy. First of all I connected with myself by watching myself as if I was a second person and I still do, that will be a constant process. Then I acknowledged all my fears and frustrations. Thought about the reasons from which they had stemmed and eradicated those reasons. I pushed myself to be happy and enjoy every circumstance by seeing the bright side of it shunning my habit to see what is missing and be sad about it. I have started living in today rather than the future and consider it a present. When things do not happen my way, I have learnt to trust the Universe on the logic that it is uncountable times more intelligent that I am and if something is not happening the way I want it may not be good for me, I may think something to be great, but the Universe knows all the consequences. The Universe is a friendly place and I am going to be happy in its friendship without doubting it. One has to be a believer to be happy in life. If you are a believer than the universe gives you everything in manifold. If you try to share your happiness and strive to give happiness and love to the people around you then you are showered with happiness and love. I have learnt how important it is to be in the company of good people. We should only be in the company of happy, positive and progressive people who bring out the best in us, whose influence will help us rise. I did have this habit before but now it is stronger than ever, I avoid, negative people, negative talks and negative environment that would fan and bring out my negative instincts. I only stay with those people who motivate me to be my best. If I fall in negative company by chance first I try to be positive but if I see that it is not being cared for then I distance myself. There are different classes of people, one who are wiling to evolve, one who are happy in their state but are open to change and the third class who want to be vice and will try to influence you too. One should stay away from the people of this category. However, I do not judge people and form opinions and discuss them with others but yes, I understand the person and tune up myself accordingly.I do not criticize people and accept them the way they are. I do not find it very difficult to adjust with people because I am a loner, I am with people for only for short spells. I enjoy my solitude. Every one is not like me so, if we are aware of how to deal with people keeping in mind positivity then it is easy to get along with everyone. It is a universal rule, if you are positive you will only attract positive people and positive circumstances in your life. My endeavor is to evolve in this life. My journey has just started and I am excited to delve deeper. I wanted to share my happiness and this little secret to make you happy. I read it in Robin Sharma’s  (The author of ‘The Monk who Sold His Ferrari’ series) book – ‘The Saint, The Surfer and The CEO’,  that wisdom should always be shared to help others to live an enriched life and that is what I have tried to do here.

Last but not the least, life is quite a riddle and is different for every one. To be happy in life one has to understand it very deeply and trust me there is nothing more interesting than life, as you unlock the secrets one by one, it will nothing but excite you. Books that I have read and am constantly reading have and are helping me understand the beautiful phenomenon called life. I would like to name a few that have influenced me – ‘The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari’ series by Robin Sharma, The Laws of the Spirit World by Khorshed Bhavnagri, The Dr. Brian Weiss series, Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom, The Power of Subconcious Mind by J Murphy and the Holy Gita. Do read them, your life will change forever, for good.

Happy Living! Life is Beautiful, Live Every Moment.

© Trisha Malika Ghosh

Spiritualism, Mind and Meditation

HAPPINESS AND CONTENTMENT IS A STATE OF MIND

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Many may think spiritualism is a religious way of life. However, the fact is that it is a way to train our mind and spirit for the purpose of self-evolution. Spiritualism is to guide our spirit to a higher plane. By adopting the lifestyle, one can see a positive change in his or her life. Modern life is jam packed with work schedules and is full of tensions, which stresses us out. One has to be thoroughly organized and disciplined to manage the different roles in his life. This discipline comes from the pursuit of spiritual life. Spiritual life is being disciplined, positive and productive. Every action and every thought has to be positive and oriented towards productivity. A person cannot rise with negative emotions and tendencies. With positivity comes peace and happiness and with this perfect state of well being a person and achieve whatever he wants.  ‘Time is of Essence’ hence, time has to be used with utmost care. We should not see how much time we have spent on something but we should see how much time we have utilized.

Spiritualism helps in disciplining a person, which is an imperative trait for growth. Before disciplining ourselves, we have to achieve the most difficult task of disciplining our mind. Mind is an integral part of our existence. According to Vedanta, ‘it is a separate entity from our physical body.’ The nature of mind is very difficult to understand because the mind is very subtle as well as hidden. We can observe our mind through introspection and work on it accordingly. Many problems arise from our mental condition. It is our navigator, propeller and anchor. To have a productive mind we have to condition it accordingly. The mind works the way we program it. Just like a healthy body, we need a healthy mind. In fact, the first step to have a healthy mind is to have a healthy body. The mind needs nourishment that comes from meditation, exercise, healthy food, congenial environment and positive thoughts. If you feed this mind well, then only can you get rich food out of it. It is a common saying in Vedanta, ‘that our joy and suffering, wisdom and folly, strength and weakness, depend very much on the condition of mind.’ The mind has both good forces and dark forces. It is both negative and positive. The force that we let the mind flow with determines the quality of our life. The mind is a magnet that attracts what we have in our life and determines our fate. Therefore, the mind has to be guided to attract only good. That is why it is said that we are the creator of our own destiny. It is in our own will to govern the mind and be productive. Mind is very similar to the stallion, it has to be trained to be disciplined and focused. For a sharp mind, it needs to be purified, nurtured with positivity, needs to be alert,  free from internal noise and most of all be at peace. The mind is the basis for our well being, it should be used for only productive purposes.

Meditation is the most effective means to control the rising of mind waves that disturb it. Meditation has positive effects on a person’s life. It is the key to peace and happiness. It provides energy and nourishment to the mind. Meditation is the light, which removes all the darkness from the mind and takes it towards the positive direction destroying all negativity. Meditation is the process of purification of the mind and soul. It clears our aura and makes us better human beings.  It helps us to connect with our mind and inner self. It helps us collect our self. It builds intuition, helps in clear thinking and sound judgement. It sparks creativity and elevates our capabilities. Once the mind is conditioned, disciplined and seasoned with the help of meditation, it takes its own course and leads us to a path where we can accomplish whatever we want. The greatest gift that we receive from meditation is a blissful mind.

© THE TIMES OF INDIA