Balancing Negativity

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Every one has a negative side and a positive side, that we may term as our dark and bright side. It is up to us what we let reign on us. Negativity is an addiction that we really love unconsciously, we are more drawn to thoughts that are negative and prone to enjoy them without even realizing it.  Being overpowered by negativity does not mean that you are a bad person but it means that your thought process is not in the right direction for you. The thoughts that are detrimental for us and overpower us so much that they govern our actions is a negative thought pattern. 

The reason I talk about it so confidently is that at one time rather for a long time, I have enjoyed being negative and have  devastated my life to the point that it appeared that it is over. By being negative I attracted bad experiences, severe ailments, accident and was drowned in misery. I loved to pity myself. Why I became negative, did have a justified reason but now that I look back I think there are always ways to come out of our miseries and circumstances that cause them. I am not an exception who brooded over her problems and indulged in self pity rather than finding solutions. Thankfully after reading a lot of books that changed my perception towards life, I not only emerged from my state but have controlled my thought patterns.  I would like to emphasize here that we have to be very disciplined in governing our thought patterns because they shape our life. Thought patterns are governed by our mind and hence, we have to govern our mind. Mind control is the mantra here. Try to connect with your subconscious mind which is called the higher mind. The easiest way to connect with it is to meditate and listen to it by silencing all the inner noise. Our gut feeling arises from our subconscious mind. You balance your mind and you will be able to balance your life.

I read, I contemplated, I introspected and I deeply studied myself to change my behavior and thought patterns. In the beginning I found it quite difficult but my previous state had made me so desperate to get rid of misery that I was prepared to do anything for it. My spiritual inclination and practice also helped me a lot.

Now I would like to share with you the simple practices that I followed to be positive and happy. First of all I connected with myself by watching myself as if I was a second person and I still do, that will be a constant process. Then I acknowledged all my fears and frustrations. Thought about the reasons from which they had stemmed and eradicated those reasons. I pushed myself to be happy and enjoy every circumstance by seeing the bright side of it shunning my habit to see what is missing and be sad about it. I have started living in today rather than the future and consider it a present. When things do not happen my way, I have learnt to trust the Universe on the logic that it is uncountable times more intelligent that I am and if something is not happening the way I want it may not be good for me, I may think something to be great, but the Universe knows all the consequences. The Universe is a friendly place and I am going to be happy in its friendship without doubting it. One has to be a believer to be happy in life. If you are a believer than the universe gives you everything in manifold. If you try to share your happiness and strive to give happiness and love to the people around you then you are showered with happiness and love. I have learnt how important it is to be in the company of good people. We should only be in the company of happy, positive and progressive people who bring out the best in us, whose influence will help us rise. I did have this habit before but now it is stronger than ever, I avoid, negative people, negative talks and negative environment that would fan and bring out my negative instincts. I only stay with those people who motivate me to be my best. If I fall in negative company by chance first I try to be positive but if I see that it is not being cared for then I distance myself. There are different classes of people, one who are wiling to evolve, one who are happy in their state but are open to change and the third class who want to be vice and will try to influence you too. One should stay away from the people of this category. However, I do not judge people and form opinions and discuss them with others but yes, I understand the person and tune up myself accordingly.I do not criticize people and accept them the way they are. I do not find it very difficult to adjust with people because I am a loner, I am with people for only for short spells. I enjoy my solitude. Every one is not like me so, if we are aware of how to deal with people keeping in mind positivity then it is easy to get along with everyone. It is a universal rule, if you are positive you will only attract positive people and positive circumstances in your life. My endeavor is to evolve in this life. My journey has just started and I am excited to delve deeper. I wanted to share my happiness and this little secret to make you happy. I read it in Robin Sharma’s  (The author of ‘The Monk who Sold His Ferrari’ series) book – ‘The Saint, The Surfer and The CEO’,  that wisdom should always be shared to help others to live an enriched life and that is what I have tried to do here.

Last but not the least, life is quite a riddle and is different for every one. To be happy in life one has to understand it very deeply and trust me there is nothing more interesting than life, as you unlock the secrets one by one, it will nothing but excite you. Books that I have read and am constantly reading have and are helping me understand the beautiful phenomenon called life. I would like to name a few that have influenced me – ‘The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari’ series by Robin Sharma, The Laws of the Spirit World by Khorshed Bhavnagri, The Dr. Brian Weiss series, Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom, The Power of Subconcious Mind by J Murphy and the Holy Gita. Do read them, your life will change forever, for good.

Happy Living! Life is Beautiful, Live Every Moment.

© Trisha Malika Ghosh

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Balancing the Emotional Baggage

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NEXT TIME YOU PACK YOUR BAG, BE JUDICIOUS BEFORE OVERLOADING IT WITH UNNECESSARY EMOTIONS!

Emotional baggage is the weight of emotions people carry around and do not know how to deal with it effectively. For some of us our backpacks are heavy because we do not see the intrinsic worth of life and enjoy it. Instead, we entangle and suffocate ourselves with onerous load of emotions. The emotions referred to here are negative emotions, imbalanced emotions and brooding that really make our backpacks unnecessarily heavy.

One has to travel light in spite of responsibility and commitment. Practicing it in a balanced way can help sift out the negative emotions largely and make the mind clear enough to have a creative vision of life. If we can properly balance our emotional relationships and develop insight, we would perceive the intrinsic worth of life. For this, we need to train our mind to be positive, to be able to see the brighter side of things in all circumstances. However much adverse situations may be, we should think of ways to tackle with the problems and find solutions rather than getting bogged down or feel as a hapless person. Such a state of the mind leads to despondency and pushes one to self-pity, which in turn is terribly addictive. It paralyses all actions and altogether thwarts the chances of coming out of the problems. We should work hard on our mental strength and always keep the heart uninvolved.  This helps one to achieve necessary clarity of mind, enables him to call forth inner resources to direct our emotions on the positive side of the scale opposed to negative thinking. Striking the balance, we will be better equipped to draw up a strategically sound road map for action. It unleashes the power of our mind and enables us to excel in all realms of our life.

Troubles concerning emotional relationships are spread out to family, friends, colleagues, society, ones work and so on. There is always a tension between these and self. Self is always at the center of this consciousness. The responsibility of balancing the emotions also revolves round self. There are pulls from all the categories of relationships as they form the basis of our social existence and identity. Being human, we cannot live outside the society. However, in this relational network we need to be objective and precisely discriminatory and discretionary in order to achieve an accurate proportion in our duties towards each individual and group.

In the whole game, one’s own integrated self is the primary factor. The first step of effort to this end could be balancing our engagement to work. As a consequence of collective consciousness we measure our value in terms of the quality of our work, to fit in to the set parameters. Our work fills almost three quarters of the day. It is very important to come to terms with this emotional tension. In this present day break-neck competitive world, to soothe the nerves one may sometimes take time off the scene, leave himself free and relax in whatever way he likes. More importantly, one must take a pause in the midst of this restive world by withdrawing into self in some undisturbed nook daily for some time, look within and harmonize his mind, body and soul. It is essential for regaining mental strength and emotional balance, attain accord in life and achieve fulfillment. Besides, we should allow space discretely to everything big and small to realize a complete sense of life. A healthy mind gives birth to a healthy body and a healthy life, nurtures happiness within and lays the foundation of a constructive existence.